Checking Back In
It's been over a month since my last blog post, which is a pretty big stretch of time for me. I've been busier than I typically am and haven't set aside the time to write a new entry- until today!
I think this is a good opportunity to talk about the nature of black and white thinking (or all-or-nothing thinking). Black and white thinking is when a person sees the world and its many aspects as either one or the other- bad or good, moral or immoral, right or wrong, etc. Black and white thinking can be dangerous because it causes us to see things as either all good or all bad and doesn't allow us to recognize the positive aspects in a seemingly negative situation.
All-or-nothing thinking can sometimes be attributable to why some folks get behind on work or homework. If you've got 2 or 3 late assignments, it can be easy to throw the towel in and say that you're done. It can also cause people who have perfectionistic tendencies to give up if they feel as if they've made a mistake. It could also, potentially, keep a counselor from updating her blog because she's a little embarrassed that it's been over a month since her last entry :)
All-or-nothing thinking sets unrealistically high standards that nobody can reach because nobody is perfect and everybody makes mistakes. Forgive yourself and allow your self to be human.