Something a little more personal

This blog post is about me.

Well, kind of. I had an experience recently that I would like to share with anybody reading this blog because I think it's relevant to everyone.

A few weeks ago, I was scheduled to attend an eating disorder workshop that focused on using mindfulness and metaphor with clients who struggle with disordered eating. I was very excited to attend the workshop and had looked forward to it for weeks.

Do you remember that little thing called life? Well, it happened.

The night before the conference, I got sick which is, unfortunately, something I had no control over. I was sick enough that I made the decision to not go to the workshop that I had been excitedly chattering about for weeks to my coworkers. 

Before I came to the decision to not attend the workshop, I took myself on a guilt trip. I initially planned on forcing myself to go, no matter how ill I was feeling. After some time had passed, I then decided to prioritize my self-care over the obligation I made to attend the workshop. Enter: guilt.

My feelings of guilt stemmed from the fact that I had made a commitment to attend the workshop and I take commitments pretty seriously. After utilizing logical thinking, I came to the realization that I had no control over whether or not I was sick and that taking care of my well-being took precedent over the commitment I had made.

I'm sharing this story because I believe that this sort of thinking is something that many of us experience. Human beings are not perfect, despite the fact that many of us strive for perfection. Sometimes, we have no control over the events in our lives but we DO have control over our responses to those events. Life is unpredictable and, sometimes, disappointing. The silver lining is that we get to choose how we handle these unpredictable disappointments. 

Sometimes, it's difficult to know how to handle these events and that is where a counselor can aid in helping you. The important thing to remember is that you are not defined by the things that happen to you. The other important thing to remember is to take care of yourself before you take care of other people or obligations. 

Emily Teegarden